Check Out The 5 Reasons Why Self Talking Is Not a Significant of Madness

It has long been described as a sign of madness, before scientists found that it was far from it. Talking to yourself or self-talk is an action that not only helps you materialize your thoughts, but also helps you make better sense of things.


Here are 5 reasons why talking to yourself is anything to be call craziness.

1). It Speeds Up Your Brain
Talking to yourself can actually help you complete tasks faster and helps improve your accuracy and performance. Repeating to yourself what you need to find or accomplish helps spark your memory and speeds up the rate at which your brain works in helping to accomplish the task. Talking to yourself also helps improve your self-control, reduces impulsive behavior and even helps improve your decision making.

2). It Helps You Organize Your Thoughts
When you’re confused or when it seems like your thoughts are running rampant through your mind, talking to yourself help you organize these wild and confusing thoughts. Conversing with yourself, especially when there’s no one around to really talk to, help you get a grip and clarify your thoughts enough to tend to what’s important and make decisions on whatever you’re contemplating.

3). It Helps To Improve Focus and Behaviour
Talking yourself through tasks helps improve your focus and helps you to better adjust your behavior to suit the work at hand. Verbally announcing each step of a task to yourself can actually help you perform much better at it because of improved focus, and it also makes it easier for you to set goals for yourself. So, next time you need to carry out a tasking, tricky or confusing project, try giving yourself verbal directions (in other words, try talking yourself through it). You’ll notice that your spoken statements actually help you determine what your next move should be, and what behavior you will need to complete the project.

4). It Helps You Feel Less Anxious
Giving yourself a quick talk out loud when you need to calm your nerves helps relax you, makes you less anxious and actually increases your chances of performing better. Talking or conversing with yourself before a stressful event can help you relax. Using second person phrases or pronouns during your ‘self-talk’ does a lot in helping you build confidence; this is because talking to yourself with second person pronouns helps create a psychological distance from the event, which allows you manage your nervous and anxious emotions much better.

5). It Can Improve Your Success Rate
Encouraging yourself out loud increases your chances of succeeding. Speaking positive and encouraging words to yourself especially when working to complete a task or achieve a goal, increases your chances of overall success in the task. Of course, this does not take the place of actual knowledge, hard work and effort, but it does make your odds of success a tad better. In addition, encouraging yourself is not enough; you have to take note of the pronouns you use to encourage yourself. Studies show that encouraging yourself with second person pronouns actually has greater benefit than first-person pronouns. Second person pronouns reminds you of not only of yourselves but of those who believed or believe in you, and this in turn gives you an ego boost as well motivates you and grows your confidence to keep pushing.

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Some Senseless Things Most Nigerians Do After An Accident Occur

Having an accident, fatal or not, is not something that anyone wants to encounter. Regardless, when it happens, you have to look for ways to resolve the situation as quickly as possible. This said, you expect some sane and normal actions taken by the people at the accident spot. However, for some Nigerians, it is different.


They completely do the opposite of what you expect and it can be very annoying.

Here are some of the seriously annoying and senseless things some Nigerians do after an accident.

1). They leave their car on the road
When you bashed another person's car, you find them arguing and exchanging angry words right in the middle of the road. They do not really care if their actions result in a long traffic or notorious queue. Why can't both of you get off the road and find a solution? In other cases, when a car has an accident, you still find it at that same spot for weeks.

2). Crowd the scene as if they are watching a movie
Imagine an accident scene and people simply gather round shouting, some crying, while others just watch what is happening like a movie. They will not allow the emergency services to work and in some circumstances, the police have to shoot in the air to disperse the crowd.

3). As an opportunity for some to "steal"
In a crowd, you find the good, the bad and the ugly. The mission of certain people is just to steal. They steal phones, wallets, and other valuables. They do not even care if it is the properties of the person involved in the accident. Unfortunate!

4). They started taking pictures
The technology age is here. The urge to take selfies and pictures have made some people become uncaring and unconcerned about others. At an accident scene, you find people taking pictures to post on social media just to get likes and comments. Meanwhile, an individual is lying there in a pool of blood.

5). They refuse to help the victims
This is probably the worse of all. You just wring in pain when you see people around you but they refuse to ferry you to the hospital or offer first aid. Sometimes, it is not their fault because the police may just come around and accuse you of something you do not know anything about. Nigerians prefer to wait until the emergency services and police arrive. But at that short time, a precious life may be lost. Let us lend a helping hand.

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Check Out This 5 Things Most Couples Get Wrong About Money And Possible Solution's To It

“Want to head to the mall with me?” my friend asked one Friday evening.

“Actually, I do need stuff for the kids,” I said. “Great sales are going on.”

I hopped in her car and she began, “I’m so mad at Jim. I’m actually furious. Ignoring my point of view, with most of our credit cards maxed out, he put a down payment on a boat. He knows how I feel about that. But he did what he wanted.”


My friend’s money disagreements were as familiar to me as our shopping trips. Gene and I had the same misalignments of our priorities. I was the saver and he the spender. And we, too, had the same arguments.

“So,” my friend continued, “I think I’ll show him that I can also spend money. In fact, I will get that ring I’ve been wanting for a long time. If he can do what he wants, so can I.”

Should a financial counselor have been riding in the back seat, no doubt, he would have given his professional assessment. And the truth about relationships and money would have been echoing loudly.

So often, as experts agree, money is often misused, abused and used to accuse. In the case of my friend, the boat and the ring were weapons to be used against each other.

Gene and I had to work hard to overcome that struggle and set up a budget. But sadly, my friend’s marriage ended in divorce before the last payment on the boat was made.

Unchecked differences in handling money that lead to discord are Satan’s effective weapons. They cause emotional separation from the one to whom we said “I do.”

But what we do instead is bring our relationship in the red when we do these five things:

1). Being Convinced Money Means Security
That was me. I had come from Bolivia. And with scarcity of every aspect, money to buy food had been a priority. Therefore, making sure we had a nice savings cushion was vital for me. And when Gene wanted to invest our savings in a business venture, I cringed at the risk. I resisted and he felt stifled by my lack of vision.

Fights and more fights dampened our romance. He was unhappy because I put a stop to his seemingly sound financial decisions. And I felt dismissed because he didn’t heed my warnings.

Solution:
I changed. My eyes had to be focused on God as my true provider and source of my security. And I began seeking His wisdom to guide Gene’s financial decisions. I trusted more in God to shield us as we remained true to our tithing commitment.

2). Choosing to Have Separate Accounts
Today more than ever, assertions of our own individuality are encouraged and keeping his and hers accounts is a popular concept. But does this separation truly reflect the union God instructs in marriage?

Popular author and radio host, Dave Ramsey writes, “Marriage is a partnership. The preacher said, ‘and now you are one.’ Both parties need to be involved in the finances. Separating the money and splitting the bills is a bad idea.”

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

Solution:
Realize that it’s illogical to be one flesh, one heart, and one in goals, but two in finances.

3). Using Money as a Symbol of Status, Prestige, or Success
Wayne and Mary* had returned from a counselor session. Their problem that had separated them for over a year had surged because of Wayne’s drive to create a specific status.

The relentless climb to the top of his company had blinded him from seeing how he had neglected his family. His frequent business trips and long hours in the office created distance between he and Mary. The more she expressed the need to have him home and be part of the children’s lives, the more he resisted.

His goal was to become a successful executive and thus, be a better provider for the family. And for the children, he would set an example of hard work needed to succeed.

Solution:
They both came to a point of reconciliation when God became their focus. They made Him the Lord of their lives. Wayne recognized his mistaken values and goals. Mary realized the demands she made upon him without first seeking God’s intervention.

4). Avoiding Discussing the Topic
No spouse enjoys tension, fights, or disagreements. And to stay away from the unpleasant encounters, couples have chosen to ignore the elephant in the room. Often it’s so big others notice it, but they choose to overlook it. Couples who avoid confrontation often end up with resentment stored inside until it leads to financial ruin or emotional disaster.

Solution:
The Bible says in Matthew 5:9, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.”

Many times, in order to “make” peace, issues need to be aired out, details analyzed, emotions and feelings shared. Peace cannot reign when emotions of resentment, worry, and fear rumble inside. Peace brushes a relationship when open communication, kind understanding, and committed obedience to God’s ways rule in a marriage.

5). Placing Blame
How good it feels to put the blame on the other spouse because in a distorted sort of way, it gives us a way out. Blaming the other sets us free to say, “It’s not me; it’s you who’s the problem.” And in doing so, the real “us” is revealed.

“How couples handle money says a lot about how they see themselves,” says Joan Atwood, a New York marriage and family therapist and professor of counseling and mental health professions at Hofstra University.

Blaming our spouse speaks of our own anxiety and inability to be open to a reasonable solution.

And to make it worse, “…opposites often attract. Spenders attract hoarders, and worriers attract avoiders,” Dr. Atwood said.

“Even in relationships where styles are similar, one partner may push the other into change. Spenders will fight to be the super-spender, thus forcing the other to become more of a hoarder in order to set a boundary,” she said.

Then blame fuels the flame that turns into the fire of resentment.

Solution:
No one but God can change a person. And He begins that change when we choose to apply love, the genuine love outlined in 1 Corinthians 13:4-6, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs.”

- In our 40 years of marriage, at one time or another, Gene and I have fallen in each of these five traps. But when investing in our relationship, we bought stock in God’s Word. We receive dividends of His provision. We consistently deposit our tithes. And each month, we count on a large balance of God’s grace to carry us.

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How To Be Better and Not Bitter

If you’re reading this right now, I would gather that you either want to know how to be better and not bitter, or you want to help someone else in this case. Whatever your position, I’m glad you’re here. Because we need to have the conversation about it. And the reason being is so that healing can begin to take place. So…are you ready?


Usually, bitterness doesn’t just happen. It’s a bit of a process. It’s slow, sneaky, and it can be vicious if not checked. It often stems from some form of hurt, offense, injustice, or disagreement. And again, if these described emotions are not dealt with, then a root of bitterness will begin to grow. It’s inevitable.

But you have a choice. You can choose to be better and not bitter. I need to say that choosing to be or stay bitter is sinful.

It’s true. And it’s not God’s way. But I think you know that already, and that’s why you’re here. Because you DON’T want to be bitter or you don’t want others you know to be in this place either.

So here’s how healing takes place. I’ll start with the biblical ways first and then I’ll share some practical tips on how to overcome and defeat this life-sucking, hindering spirit. Here goes..

Biblical Perspective:

Ephesians 4:31-32, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ Jesus has forgiven you.”

Proverbs 20:22, “Don’t say, ‘I will get even for this wrong.’ Wait for the Lord to handle the matter.”

Proverbs 10:12, “Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses.”

Hebrews 12:15, “…Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”

Romans 12:17-18, “Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.”

Romans 12:19-20, “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For Scriptures say, ‘I will take revenge; I will pay them back, says the Lord. Instead, ‘If you enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing so, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.”

Romans 12:21, “Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.”

Let God’s word have weight in your life and get rid of bitterness, my sister. It’s really all about letting God work on your behalf, while also taking the action steps to responding well as a Christian woman.

Trust me. The devil would LOVE for you to treat those who have hurt you angrily and against what God’s word says. But don’t give him the satisfaction.

Now here’s some practical advice that I promised..

Watch out for self-deception. Because sometimes there can be an undercurrent of bitterness whereas you think you’re not bitter, but you actually are. The acid test to see if bitterness is creeping into your heart is dependent upon how you feel when the individual comes to mind or name is mentioned. What emotions arise? Is it anger and resentment or love and forgiveness?

Personally, I know the feeling of being bitter. I know the onslaught when the enemy brings it on and I know when it’s creeping into my heart. I can sense it. I can tell by how I feel. And the Holy Spirit convicts me when it’s present. But…I wasn’t always able to recognize it.

Before I started living the Christian life according to God’s word and with conviction, I allowed bitterness to run rampant in my life. Meaning, if I was upset with someone, that individual would know it to the fullest extent! Yet, it wasn’t until I learned through good teaching and the word of God that bitterness is destructive and a hindrance to my spiritual growth and productivity. And it’s sin. So guess what? I had to let it go!

And I want to teach you to do the same thing. Let it go! Don’t let it rob you of your joy, productivity, or love. Don’t let it steal your peace. Don’t allow it to cause you to be mean, angry, or slanderous and destroy good relationships. Don’t forget, our great enemy Satan comes to steal, kill, and to destroy, but Jesus came that you would have life more abundantly.

So LIVE. Live the abundant life in Christ, my sister. Don’t let the enemy rob you of your right to forgive, love people deeper, and dwell in peace as much as possible with others as the Bible states. Instead, choose to be the bigger person, let go, and MOVE ON. Because guess what? Most likely, while you’re still angry, that individual or individuals have moved on.

With that being said, instead of waking up thinking about the offense or the person who hurt you, set your thoughts on things that are pure and lovely, and on things above, not on things on the earth as Philippians 4:8 and Colossians 3:2 states. Think about how you will be wanted to answer by Jesus.


I want to say this before I close this post. If you’re bitter right now, or if you feel it creeping up inside of you, I urge you to carve it out of your heart today. Circumcise it with God’s word and get free.

Also, if you haven’t made things right with the individual who hurt you, do so. And if you have done so already, remember…let it go and move on.

It’s time to be free. Make the choice to be better, not bitter today. Do it for you and for others.

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon. And those who endure unto the end, shall be saved. Let’s be ready from the Inside Out.

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Check Out These 5 Habits You Can Find In Charismatic People

Being likable is not rocket science, but a number of people a firm in their belief that they don’t care about being liked. However, when push comes to shove knowing your way around relating with people and being able to win them over is an important skill that you will find very essential in moving up the ladder of success.


Here are 5 habits of charismatic people...

1). They Listen More Than They Speak
When charismatic people relate with others, they make them feel heard. Many people like to talk with and relate with them because of how actively they seem to listen and give useful feedback; and the fact is that people tend to like and remember good listeners positively.

2). They’re Genuine People
Or at least they are very good at seeming genuine and this is what draws people to them. People typically like those they perceive to be genuine and humble, and charismatic people have that going for them. They are perceived to be genuine and most of them actually are. A charismatic person’s genuineness coupled with a kind personality will gagner instant like from others.

3). They Stand Up Tall
Charismatic people have a certain ‘swag’. They stand up tall and have an appealing mien. Their gait and mannerisms are smart, and there something inherently attractive about their carriage that draws people to them. They of course have a good posture, whether sitting, standing or walking, and that makes them appear more secure and confident. This is another characteristic that people admire in them, which makes them likeable.

4). They Build Confidence in Others
When people spend time around a charismatic person, they feel better about themselves, or they at least come away feeling inspired or motivated in some sort of way. This makes charismatic people likeable and makes many people want to be around them. The fact is charismatic people tend to build confidence in others by giving credits and complements where they are due to make others feel important, and also by constructively critiquing those whose actions need to be reformed. When dealing with others, charismatic people mainly focus on the importance of this saying, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it?”

5). Remember Names
Charismatic people go to far lengths to either know the name or find a system of remembering the name of others around them. Like Dale Carnegie said, ‘a person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language’, and charismatic people understand this fact very well. It’s why they are sure to put effort into finding a way to remember the names of those around them. In the event, they actually forget the name of a person they are very polite about how they go about asking for it again and will hardly forget it a second time.

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Check Out These 9 Prayers Husband's Should Pray Over Their Wife's

Husbands, this is a call to action!

Prayer has immeasurable capabilities to transform the reality around us. Prayer moves the hand of God. Through our prayers He moves, transforms, and heals us.


I love this quote: “Without Him we can’t, and without us He won’t.” Meaning, we are the hands and feet of the Lord. He is our strength and power, but He demands our participation.

We are called to be the hands and feet, and this starts in prayer.

Here are 9 prayers you can pray over your wife.

1). Her Friendships
Dear Lord, thank you for the friendship I have with my wife. I ask that it deepens in closeness and oneness as the years pass. I pray that I grow in knowledge so I may love her better. Lord, I ask that my wife (Audrey) has girlfriends that are encouraging, uplifting and followers of Jesus. I want her to feel safe and secure when she hangs out with them. I pray that they are a source of joy in her life, filling her up with laughter and positive memories to treasure forever. I Pray that she has older women friends that lead her in wisdom, faith, and maturity. Jesus, I ask that you continue to nurture Audrey’s new friendships, and bring more depth to the old friendships. May she lead by example in her friendships. In Jesus name, amen.

2). Peace
Jesus, you are the prince of peace! Thank you for sending us the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit I pray that you grant Audrey with a peace beyond all understanding. That she feels safe and calm in circumstances where it doesn’t make sense. Holy Spirit give Audrey the ability to see through her struggles and set her sights and mind on you. I pray that she reacts first with prayer, and that she casts all her worries, fears, and doubts at the foot of your cross. May Audrey be marked by her peace. 1 Peter 5:7. Holy Spirit fill Audrey up with your presence. I pray that Audrey always pursues peace and that she will be known as a peacemaker. Let peace rule in her heart. Colossians 3:15. Jesus I pray that Audrey adopts (and continues to adopt) a heart of thankfulness, and through her thankfulness rests in peace because of your provision. In Jesus name, Amen.

3). Confidence
Dear Lord, I pray for Audrey’s confidence. That it is unshaken by the critics of this world. I pray that she finds her value, beauty and worth in you alone. Give her a confidence in her Identity that cannot be overlooked by others. I pray that in her confidence Audrey is a beacon for the broken and hurt that they might see you and your glory through her. Help me to also build up her confidence with words and actions. I pray that Audrey seeks to be nobody but herself, that she can live into the fullest version of herself according to your scriptures, your plan for her life, and design for our family. I pray that she’ll be filled with joy knowing that she has confidence in herself, and who she is becoming. Jesus thank you for a wife that seeks after you, I pray that together we can grow in our confidence of you, and be unshaken as we grow into our truest identities which are rooted in you. In Jesus name, amen.

4). Safety/Protection
Jesus, you are worthy to be praised! I pray for Audrey and her safety. Keep her healthy and safe as she lives out each day. I pray for protection over her mind as she reads things on the internet, and encounters false teachings. Holy Spirit, protect her mind and keep her nudged in the correct direction towards truth. Jesus, I pray the full armor and shield of protection over Audrey. I pray that she is blessed with good health and a body that functions to its fullest potential. I pray that I am able to provide for and protect her so that she feels well cared for, safe, treasured, and protected. Jesus, I pray for wisdom and leadership as I have been tasked with washing her with the Word (Ephesians 5:26) that you grant me a pure heart, and wisdom. Jesus, protect my wife from all spiritual attacks. Protect her against the efforts of the evil one and his affiliates. You called us to walk as children of the light (1 Thessalonians 5:5) and I pray that you protect the mind, heart, body and soul of Audrey as she strives to do just that. In Jesus name, Amen.

5). Motherhood
Lord thank you for who Audrey is. Thank you for making her exactly who she is, and who she will be. Your work is so beautiful, thank you for entrusting me with the protection of Audrey. I pray for her body, mind, and spirit when she enters motherhood. I pray that the transition into motherhood is a seamless and healthy adventure. Give Audrey extra strength, endurance, and patience through that time. I know she will be an amazing mother, and I ask that she be filled with value, beauty, and worth. Protect her emotions during that time and help me even further lose all selfishness so I can serve her and our family to the best of my abilities. In Jesus name, amen.

6). Fear
Lord, I pray that nothing will ever cause Audrey to be fearful or terrified. I pray that she will never lose control of her emotions and fall into fear out of anxiety or stress. I pray that Audrey always remains strong in her faith and that it will stand as a hedge against any unnecessary fears. Giver her a mind of discernment that cuts through all the noise so she won’t be dismantled or misguided from lack of direction. I pray that in all situations Audrey will act out of inspiration from the Holy Spirit and not of her flesh. Jesus, I pray that I can provide to the best of my abilities a safe environment for her, help me become the man I am supposed to be in order to do this. In Jesus name, amen.

7). Truth
Lord, you are truth. We believe in you and your Word. I pray that Audrey’s foundation in never shaken. That she stands strong in her faith all her life and grows into a shining light for your kingdom and purposes. Lord, I pray that the reality of your existence is always tangible and made clear to Audrey. I pray that truth is discerned and made known to her. I pray that through wisdom and discernment she can successfully relay the reality of truth to friends, family and the world who do not know you, in a way that is receivable. Give her the ability to point people to you, for the sake of truth Lord. I pray for the hearts of people lost in life that their souls are convicted so that that may come to know you and that Audrey can be a vehicle for your works. May Audrey be a kingdom warrior for your reality, and the promised kingdom to come. In Jesus name, amen.

8). Love
Dear heavenly father, I pray for the heart of Audrey that she will always feel loved by me. Help me understand her more and on deeper levels as the days go by so I can love her the way she needs and wants to be loved. Help me become a man that loves her like Christ loved the church. Jesus, I pray that Audrey always feels loved by you. That she never forgets what you did for her. I pray that the reality that you are coming back is enough to motivate her to pursue a relationship with you and fall deeply in love with you. Lord, I pray that love abounds in her so she can permeate love and freely give it away because she is constantly filled up with it. In Jesus name, amen.

9). Wisdom
Dear Lord, grant Audrey wisdom. I pray that she is daily filled with understanding and wisdom. I pray that as she grows in her apprenticeship of you Jesus that she will understand the things of the spirit and continually grow into a Godly woman. I pray that she continually asks for wisdom and understanding, for you say that you will grant it to those that ask (James 1:5). Lord, I pray that Audrey has discernment with the wisdom you entrust her with, that she uses it wisely and effectively. I pray that Audrey always has older women around her that will mentor her, build her up and speak wisdom into her. I pray that as Audrey spends time in the word that you speak to her and in her. I pray that she is always more concerned with the work that you are doing in her than through her so that she can one day be an example to new believers. Lord thank you for the mind of my wife and her passion to know you. In Jesus name, Amen

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6 Amazing Lessons You Should Learn About Money

Here are tge 6 Things you should learn about money.

1). Learn How to Think about Money
Yes there is in fact a way to think about money. You must always have a plan for your money. Many people are either intimidated by money or are just plain afraid of it. You should try to understand your emotions and preconceived feelings about money. Think about how you feel about money; think about your ability to earn it. Think about ways to save your money and how to manage it wisely. Think positively and proactively about your money, this enhances your feeling of control over your money.

2). Learn How to Act on Your Thoughts about Money
It’s not enough to just envision the great things you intend to do with your money, you should learn to act on it and execute it. It’s not enough to just think about money or plan with it; you need to take action on it. Set goals for yourself and take guided action on it to achieve the desired results. Don’t be reckless with the execution of your ‘money plans’. Be wise, careful and meticulous. If you’re doubtful of how effective this is, give it a shot and see.

3). Learn How to Talk about Money
Money is such a sensitive topic in a wide range of settings; therefore you must learn how to talk about money to gain better control of your money and finances. You can’t run away from it, it simply must be done. Learning to regularly discuss about money helps ease things out and makes money matters become less of a taboo or a hot topic. There is an acronym called HALT, which you should consider during or when initiating financial conversations. Don’t have a money conversation with someone who is Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. Every other time outside these four are fine; common sense will guide you through the rest.

4). Learn to Live Within Your Means
This speaks for itself. There is nothing more to be said on this point again. Live within your means. The key to financial success is learning to modify yourself to live either slightly or even below your means, never above. There are a lot of ways to live comfortably without spending every penny, but this fact eludes so many. You should look at your budget and spending habits as a kind of “project that needs monitoring and occasional adjustments” and be disciplined about it. Keep tabs on your spending and learn to hold yourself accountable, before someone else does in an extremely embarrassing way.

5). Learn How to Budget Better and Prioritize Your Spending
People wrongly equate budgeting with some form of self-sacrifice; however budgeting is simply being responsible with your money. It’s taking care of your money to be sure it’s in the best possible shape, just like you do with your body and health. Money is too important to be reckless with it, so you need to learn to budget and learn to budget well. Have a reasonable budget that responsibly (the key word is responsibly) caters to your necessary needs, and prioritize your expenses to help you spend wisely. Let your budget and goals match your spending priorities, this way you get to have better control over your money.

6). Learn to Save
Don’t just save for the sake of saving, save because you understand what saving is doing for you and your future financial goals. Also, be sure to never forgo your ‘rainy-day fund’ or ‘emergency savings’, because whether you like it or not there will always be a rainy day. Some banks can help with this, as they have flexible and reasonable saving schemes to prepare for these times. Also, insurance is another good way to save for rainy days or emergencies. Don’t think insurance and insurance companies are useless. That could very likely be a mistake on your part.

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Word or advice for the wise.

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See Reactions From Disappointed Nigerians Over The Defeat of Super Eagles By South Africa

For many years, the Nigerian Super Eagles has maintained dominance over the Bafana Bafana of South Africa, but today, it changed. South Africa finally defeated Super Eagles for the first time in a competitive game after 13 attempts and the internet can't keep calm. Nigerians are understandably disappointed at the team and they are expressing their anger on social media. See more reactions below..

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Amazing Prayer For The Time of Financially Problem

Many feel the tight bonds of their budget each month. How do we have faith that God will provide for us when we’re struggling to keep our lights on, gas in our car, and our growing children in clothes that fit? What about the ache to reach out to others when we lack the means to do it, or having to tell our kids they can’t join their peers because the budget is maxed out?


Every day we debate ourselves over what to spend our money on. When the incorrect choices we make affect our family, friends, and responsibilities, we can turn to God in prayer...

trusting that He is not waiting to mound a side of guilt on top of our conviction. He is waiting help us and guide us... even through the mistakes we continue to struggle with.

Father, praise You for saving us by Your indisputable grace. Nothing trumps Your just and loving hand. No poor decision we make, irresponsible purchase, or insurmountable debt can separate us from Your love.

Paul reminds us in Ephesians that there isn’t anything we can do to gain or lose our salvation. The freedom Christ won us on the cross is what it is. Nothing we do or say can add or subtract from His sacrifice… or from who He is.

Without a concrete Rock to stand on, we would drift along thinking that we somehow have the power to trump Your authority. Thank You for reminding us, through Your Word, that we do not. That You love us indisputably and always, whether we are precise accountants or frivolous spenders.

You know who we are, and You know our heart’s intentions and our struggles. You are the only one equipped to balance and judge where we are at. You consistently say that we are Yours and remind us, through Your Word, of Jesus’ sacrifice for us.

Father, we confess our financial challenges. In a society that lifts money up to such high importance, it’s extremely hard to battle our mind’s eye each day. Thank You for blessing us with money to spend, and help us to honor You with our choices. Forgive us for mindlessly buying things in dollar sections and store end-caps. Sometimes, there are things that we never knew we needed until the bright discount sticker catches our eye. Strengthen us in those moments to fight our impulses by yielding to the power of the Holy Spirit within us.

Help us to see our finances through Your eyes. You have a purpose and plan for our lives, and every cent we’re blessed with to manage. Stir our hearts to seek Your counsel on everything from buying dessert to a brand new car. Urge us to seek You in Your Word, and prayerfully consider Jesus’ example on this earth. We confess that we don’t often stop to think about what You want for our wallet over what we want. When new trends are just a swipe of the credit card away, stir in our hearts to fight temptation.

Jesus walked the earth simply, as a carpenter… without a flashy lifestyle. His miracles were something money couldn’t buy. Not then, and not now. God’s love and God’s plan look different for all of us, but His love does not rise and fall on a scale. He is everlasting, omnipotent, and sovereign. And He has chosen us. Created us. And called us good.

Our purpose on this earth is to help others. Whether we struggle to part with our money, or have trouble accepting God’s generous blessing, help us to be laser-focused on our conversation with You. When we look around to compare our finances with others, it will always cause our hearts unrest. We don’t have the privilege of knowing people inside and out and from the moment of their creation like You do. We assume wealthy equals satisfied. But only Christ holds the key to all happiness.

Whether we seek careers or possessions to heighten our visibility in society, none will ever satisfy or compare to Jesus’ love. Help us to follow Christ in our daily lives. Prayer is life changing, that You promise us. We lift up the bills that puzzle and scare us to You. Guide us, direct us, and equip us to trust You more and more in the daily direction of our financial lives.

Thank You for providing for us, Father. Just the fact that we are skimming over these words is prove that You’ve provided for another day for us. Bless our finances, and help us to seek You first in everything, each day. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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5 Amazing Things That Occur During Sleep

Sleeping seems like such an unremarkable event, but there is so much more to sleep than we realize. Here are 5 amazing things that happen when you sleep.


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1). You Sleep in Stages
When you first fall asleep, you typically have a sleep cycle that starts with the NREM (non-rapid eye movement) stage, before you progress into a deeper NREM 2 and then NREM 3 (also called slow wave sleep). You finally land in the rapid eye movement (REM) stage of sleep, which is the stage most of your dreams occur. All these stages happen between 90 to 120 minutes, after which you wake up for like a second (most times without even realizing it) and then begin stage 1 again.

2). Your Body Temperature Drops
This is why it’s so easy to fall asleep when in a cool room or after a cool shower. This coolness actually mimics what your body is doing naturally, making it easier for you to immediately sleep off, because while you sleep your core temperature drops. In addition, during the REM stage of your sleep, your body is unable to thermoregulate, so if you get cold, your body won’t shiver to build up inner warmth, until you’re awake.

3). You’re Temporarily Paralyzed
But only for a few minutes - like 20 minutes. This paralysis usually happens during the REM stage (where most of your dreams occur). It’s what sometimes prevents you from acting out your dreams. So you might be an action hero in the dream world, jumping up and down, fighting here and there, but in the real world you’re curled up on your side, sleeping like a baby. However, the paralysis doesn’t last for very long.

4). Your Body Regulates Hunger Hormones When You Sleep
This is why you feel hungry when you wake up after having poor quality sleep. Unfortunately, you tend to eat higher- calorie foods when you feel this hunger, leading to weight gain. Hunger-regulating hormones are unable to work as they should when you don’t sleep well, this is why sleeping well is recommended for those who either want to keep fit or lose some weight.

5). Hypnagogic Jerk
This is the feeling of falling you get as you’re falling asleep or sometimes when you’re even asleep. Sometimes you can start dreaming before your body has reached the REM stage, and these jerks might occur then, in response to you acting out a dream of falling on or tripping over something. Hypnagogic jerks are more likely to happen when you’re overtired, sleep-deprived or stressed, when your brain can aggressively enter into sleep cycles before your body has had a chance to catch up.

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4 Ways To Stay Strong At The Difficult Time

Are you one to crumble at life’s circumstances? Or do you allow them to make you stronger?

When life brings something painful or you simply feel like your life is falling apart, how you respond makes all the difference in the world.


You and I can either react emotionally and escalate the drama of the situation. Or we can respond biblically and grow through it.

As I was writing my book, Drama Free, it occurred to me that there are two kinds of drama in life: 1) The drama that life brings and God allows; and 2) The drama that we create through our response to life.

The drama that life brings is inevitable. Yet how we respond to it determines whether or not it will be fruitful in our lives in conforming us to the image of Christ. Our response to the drama also determines whether God gets the glory or we shine the spotlight on our frailties, insecurities, and emotional instability.

With help from God’s Word, plus some practical guidance, you and I can be drama free – even when the unthinkable happens. Even when you are clearly a victim. Even when life takes an unexpected turn and you are caught in an overwhelming whirlwind of circumstances that would make any person lose it. Even then.

Here is the four ways that you can keep it together when it feels like your life is falling apart. (These four steps spell the word “CALM” which is what you can be if you practice them.). Check below..

C - Consider the bigger picture.
Life – and therefore every circumstance you encounter – is meant to conform you to the image of Christ. We know this because Romans 8:28-29 tells us: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son…” Once you consider this, you can relax and realize God knows what He’s doing in the circumstances He’s allowing. And you can focus on passing the test, rather than failing it through unnecessary drama.

A – Acknowledge God is in control.
You are not at the whim of the weather or the most likely predicted outcome. You are not going to consider “averages” or statistics. You are going to trust the God of miracles and whatever He decides to do or not do, for your greater good. Try taking a look at God’s track record in the stories of the Bible. People went through trial after trial, but when they acknowledged God’s control and remained faithful to Him in spite of their circumstances, they experienced deliverance, protection, comfort, and peace. God has an excellent track record of honoring those who trust Him.

L – Look for the lesson.
The lessons are everywhere. And sometimes they aren’t the ones you think. Ask God to show you what He wants you to see in the moment, and then stay tuned to His instruction. I find it is helpful, and a reminder to me that God is working in my life, when I say aloud, “God, show me what You want me to see in this situation” or, “Mold me through this, God,” or, “Open my eyes to the truth of Who You are through this situation and my pain.” Maybe your short prayer is simply, “Change me through this, Lord Jesus.” By acknowledging that God is doing something through our situation, we won’t miss the lesson.

M – Make it a point to praise.
In 1 Thessalonians 5:18 we are instructed to “give thanks in all circumstances: for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Note that command says in all circumstances, even the unexpected, uncomfortable, and unwanted circumstances. As we thank God for our circumstances – and for whatever He determines to do through them – it will change our perspective and make us people who anticipate His provision, rather than dread the worst. That is displaying faith, rather than demonstrating fear or doubt.

Here is a prayer to start with, that encompasses each step toward finding your CALM:

Lord, Thank You that what is happening in my life right now did not take You by surprise. You understand the bigger picture of what is going on and I trust You with Your plan and purposes for my life. Thank You that You are in absolute control and You are fully able to conform me to the image of Christ through this ordeal as I surrender it to You. Show me what You want me to learn through this and help me to remain teachable and sensitive to Your Holy Spirit. I thank You that You are with me, that You will never leave me, and that You are drawing me closer to You through this situation so I can experience a more intimate relationship with You. May You receive glory for how I respond to all that Your loving hand has allowed in my life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Do Keep Calm! There Is Always A Reason For Your Pains

There is a strong believe that a side to suffering we miss when we focus solely on our pain rather than on God’s greater purpose. If you can see the purpose behind the pain, you can find the way out of this lie.


If you can see the purpose beyond the pain, you will understand God’s ability to leverage the suffering in your life for greater things.

If your suffering won’t go away, it might as well go to work.

Hard times have the capacity to deepen your faith and the faith of those around you. And when you submit your situation to God, he can purify your motives and teach you wonderful things that you can only learn when suffering humbles you and forces you to pay attention to the deep work the Holy Spirit is doing inside of you.

I’m not suggesting God hurts us on purpose just to watch us squirm in agony. On the contrary; God doesn’t hurt us. The world we live in does. Things are breaking down here on earth. People hurt each other. Greed and violence and war and deception are everywhere, and you can’t get away from the constant cycle of sickness, poverty, and death. God doesn’t create these things to hurt you. He is the very One who wants to rescue broken people from these evil forces. And how does God do that? What is his plan to redeem humanity from the curse?

It begins with Jesus. God sent his own Son to this earth to live a sinless life and die a horrible death in our place, so that we would not have to be punished for our sin and rebellion.

It continues, however, with us. The plan God began with Jesus was handed off to God’s people, Christians, to carry on. Jesus himself promised that we would do even greater works than he did, simply meaning that billions of Christians can accomplish unimaginable good in this world for the glory of God when we understand that God wants to use us in his plan. “Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father” (John 14:12).

And how does he use us, exactly? One way is through our suffering. Consider these words written by Peter, the disciple who spent years with Jesus only to deny him at his crucifixion, and then was restored to lead the New Testament church:

But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. (1 Pet. 2:20–21)

Does this mean it is God’s will for me as a Christian to suffer? At first glance, the answer seems simply... yes. But let’s consider a more nuanced reading of these verses.

This Scripture states that it is God’s will not that you simply suffer aimlessly, randomly, or mindlessly but that you suffer for the purpose of doing good and, more importantly, that you endure that suffering.

Therefore, God does not orchestrate purposeless suffering in your life but rather, on the contrary, redeems your suffering, giving you the grace to endure it for the purpose of serving as a witness to the power of the gospel. People — our children, our spouse, our friends, our boss, our extended family, even skeptical nonbelievers — will observe the way we handle suffering, and they’ll learn from us.

When they see us endure the same kind of hurts and hardships they experience while remaining humble, faithful, and prayerful before God, they’ll pay close attention, curious about the source of our strength.

To put it another way: there is always a bigger story encompassing the painful place in which we find ourselves. God is always up to something much bigger. And while we may not focus on or even be aware of the bigger God-story in the midst of our suffering, the God-story is still there.

When it comes to suffering, sometimes the way we overcome is to simply, humbly, and faithfully endure.

Nothing testifies to the deep, authentic reality of God’s presence in the life of a believer like watching that believer keep their eyes on Jesus while enduring hell on earth. Observing a Christian cry out to God in confusion, pain, and anger, while maintaining the faith to keep calling, to keep weeping, to keep reaching out in hope and trust, is perhaps the greatest apologetic for the Christian faith the world will ever see. Our suffering has the power to change those who are watching us suffer.

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A Great Lesson Everyone Should Learn

See below..

A father left 17 Camels as an Asset for his Three Sons.

When the Father passed away, his sons opened up the will.

The Will of the Father stated that the Eldest son should get Half of 17 Camels,
The Middle Son should be given 1/3rd of 17 Camels,

Youngest Son should be given 1/9th of the 17. Camels,

As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, the sons started to fight with each other.

So, they decided to go to a wise man.
The wise man listened patiently about the Will. The wise man, after giving this thought, brought one camel of his own & added the same to 17. That increased the total to 18 camels.

Now, he started reading the deceased father’s will.

Half of 18 = 9.
So he gave 9 camels
to the eldest son.

1/3rd of 18 = 6.
So he gave 6 camels
to the middle son.

1/9th of 18 = 2.
So he gave 2 camels
to the youngest son.

Now add this up:
9 + 6 + 2 = 17 &
This leaves 1 camel,
which the wise man took back.

MORAL and LESSON below..
The attitude of negotiation & problem solving is to find the 18th camel i.e. the common ground. Once a person is able to find the common ground, the issue is resolved. It is difficult at times.

However, to reach a solution, the first step is to believe that there is a solution. If we think that there is no solution, we won’t be able to reach any!

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