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Monday, September 18, 2017

5 Things All Single Ladies Want Men To Know

5 Things All Single Ladies Want Men To Know

If you are a single guy who is following Jesus, we assume you know certain ‘rules of the game’ and are going to play by them. We do understand that you are a flawed human being just like us and probably don’t mistreat us on purpose. We also know that there is no such thing as a relationship without risk. 

So, below are five things that would help our (All ladies) hearts tremendously for you to be more diligent about:

(1). Don’t underestimate your leadership role. 
God assigned all men, not just husbands, the responsibility and privilege of leadership when it comes to women. You are physically and emotionally tougher than us, which is why he refers to us as the weaker vessel. When you read ‘weaker’ think delicate, precious and vulnerable. How you steward us matters A LOT and you will be accountable for it to Christ one day.

I think I speak on behalf of all women who love the Lord when I say our number one desire in a man is that he can and will lead us spiritually. If we allow ourselves to get involved with a man who isn’t a believer, than we are agreeing upfront to not have any of the following expectations. If he doesn’t share Christ’s heart, we cannot expect him to love us or treat us in a Christ-like manner. That said, many of us who have established that submission to Christ is a ‘non-negotiable’ in a potential mate still find ourselves reeling in insecurity because of the way we are being led by Christian men. Guys, we want to let you lead us, but part of your responsibility in that is creating an environment where we feel safe to be led and to respond to you. When you mislead, it hurts us and causes us to distrust men and God.

(2). Don’t single us out unless you want a singular relationship with us. 
Maybe it’s that extra rib God gave us, but we women have a heightened sense of awareness. When you single us out in any way — like giving us a compliment or liking a picture we post on Facebook or letting us borrow your pencil — we notice. I know, it’s crazy. Sometimes it feels like the greatest curse of womanhood, the fact that we are SO aware of the littlest things. So when you send us a private message, or call us for reasons that are not business-related, or your hugs get more frequent, we really notice. When we notice you treating us in a manner that is significantly different than the way you treat other women, it leads us to believe you are interested in us in a singular way. 

If you ask us out on a one-on-one basis, we always assume there is romantic interest unless you clearly state otherwise. If you actually say the word date, we expect that you are ready to be singularly committed to us. If you want to date as the world dates, be aware you are engaging in a cruel sport. The whole concept of Let me lead you to believe that I’ve picked you when actually I’m just using you to meet my needs until something better comes along is actually pretty unkind.

(3). Don’t leave us guessing about your intentions. Imagine our female brains like a pie chart. When we don’t know where we stand in relationships, a large portion of the pie is consumed with trying to figure this out, leaving much less room for all the other important things in our lives. At each stage of the game, even if it seems awkward, we really want to know where we stand with you. It’s really ok to tell us, ‘I don’t plan to get married’ or ‘I am exploring a relationship with someone else right now’ or ‘I’m very interested in you and really want to take our friendship to the next level.’ Please make sure your words and your actions are consistent with your intentions. 

Don’t tell us how devoted you are to us while you’re posting pictures of yourself with a different woman every week on Facebook. By the same token, don’t tell us you just want to be friends and then call or message us every night because you’re feeling lonely or wanting female validation. Be honest with yourself. If you feel the need to connect daily or hourly with a woman who you can share all the intimate details of your life with, you don’t just want a friend, you want a wife. Which brings me to…

(4). Don’t lead us to a place of intimacy if you have no intention of making us your wife. We know it’s not ok to go to a place of physical intimacy with you outside of marriage. But guys, when you flirt or ‘connect’ with us on levels that are emotionally and romantically intimate, you are still putting our hearts at great risk. Because God wired us to want that even more than s*x, it’s nearly impossible for us not to respond to it. And how we usually respond is by giving you access to the deepest places in our heart that should be reserved exclusively for our husband. When we discover, especially later in the game, that you never had any intentions of putting yourself in that role, it can cause us significant grief. Remember, if it is gratifying to you but costly to us, it is never Christ-like.

(5). Don’t dishonor us by ‘keeping your options open'. 
One of the reasons I refuse to engage in online dating, even the Christian version, is that I hate the idea of just being one of many options a man might be entertaining as he shops for a mate. Like, how many other women has he ‘added to his cart’ besides me? Thanks to technology, we are very aware that your options are unlimited these days. We can’t compete with all that is available to you at the touch of a screen and frankly, we don’t want to. Romans 12:10 says “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” I think it’s safe to say that honoring means not being a player. To honor means to set apart, to give high status or value to. Honoring a mate or potential mate means promising them your exclusive attention, emotionally and physically. To dishonor means to treat as common or ordinary. As sons and daughters of the King, we are not common or ordinary and we should never treat others that way or let ourselves be treated that way!

Guys, nothing makes a woman feel more common or ordinary than to discover she is just one of many options you are pursuing. On the other hand, nothing makes a woman feel more honored than knowing you have eyes only for her and are committed to loving her with everything you've got. The fact that you have kept yourself away from physical, emotional, and even visual entanglements with other women so you can offer her the special gift of your WHOLE self allows her to rest in this security: that if you were faithful to her before you even met, then you really can be trusted to be faithful once you are married.

Guys, God knows you get bombarded daily with temptation. Many of you live alone and long for companionship. If you’re a single dad, you may be away from your kids a lot too, which makes it even harder. And you're probably not thrilled about having to do your own laundry and dishes. Not to mention the physical urges. Part of you probably feels entitled to go find a woman and use her at some level to 'take the edge off.' You think no one understands. But Jesus does. He lived on his own as a man and was somehow able to keep himself pure, never violating a woman physically or emotionally, always intent on taking on the role of her protector and leading her in a way that would make her feel safe and bring out the best in her.

Could women say this is true of you? If not, don’t beat yourself up. The whole purpose of a heart check is to admit where you fail and let God correct you. Even if you’ve blown it up to this point, the good news is, your past does not have to disqualify you from this vision. On this side of the cross, through grace, we are all declared pure and are capable of having a relationship with one mate that is faithful and true and marked by honor. But it will not come without sacrifice. Are you willing to deny yourself the pleasures of careless flirting or ‘befriending’ attractive girls? Will you say a decisive no to all the sexual gratification options that the world is ambushing you with and wait, possibly years, just to prove to one woman (who you may or may not have met yet) that you are trustworthy and true? Will you really ‘lay down your life’ and your own needs to honor hers?

Only if you want an amazing marriage one day where your wife trusts you so much she holds nothing back in the way she gives herself to you in and out of the bedroom. Only if you want your prayers to be heard and answered by God in an unstoppable way!

By Dawn VanderWerf
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Nigeria President, Muhammadu Buhari Lands In New York For 72 UN General Assembly (Photos)

Muhammadu Buhari In New York For UN General Assembly

President Muhammadu Buhari arrived New York, United States for the 72nd Session of United Nations General Assembly (UNGA 72).

He arrived New York this morning, Monday, September 18, with others. See another photo of them below..

Muhammadu Buhari In New York For UN General Assembly1
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IPOB Ban Is Unconstitutional - Sen. Bukola Saraki

Senate President Bukola Saraki says the categorisation of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) as a terrorist organisation by the defence headquarters and proscription of the group by south-east governors did not follow due process.

Sen. Bukola Saraki

The military and governors from the south-east moved against IPOB on Friday.

In a statement released on Monday, Saraki said due processes must be followed in accordance with the law before such declaration can have effect.

The senate president expressed hope that President Muhammadu Buhari would initiate the right process for declaring IPOB a terrorist group, saying this would demonstrate to the world at large that “we are a country that operates by laid down process”.

“I also wish to state that the announcement of the proscription of the group known as IPOB by governors of the south-east states and the categorisation of the group as a terrorist organisation by the Nigerian military is unconstitutional and did not follow due process,” the statement read.

“Our laws make clear provisions for taking such actions and without the due process being followed, such declaration cannot have effect.

“Our brothers and sisters in the south-east, in particular, should continue to maintain peace and tranquillity and go about their lawful business. This crisis will not benefit anybody but would only expose innocent people to unwarranted danger.”

Saraki added that the national assembly will embark on a “fact-finding mission” to the south-east. 
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Man Got Arrested While Playing Keyboard In Church After He Went Robbery

Members of Agbor Gha Ihun security outfit in Agbor, Delta state on Saturday apprehended a 23-year-old man who gave his name as Emmanuel Ndidi, in one of the new generation churches in Agbor, a few hours after he led a two-man gang to unleash terror around Sunny Ojougboh area in Agbor.

The suspects1

Emma, a native of Ohunmere, said he's a Ghana returnee and was a bus driver in Ghana. He confessed that he delved into robbery out of poverty.

On why he did not go back to the driving profession, he said that it was the devil that made him not to venture into any meaningful business except crime...

According to Politics Ng, he begged for pardoned, that he will not steal again. He further confessed that one Chuks Okpehoro was his accomplice in the operation wehre about four handsets and other items were forcefully collected from their victims.

On his part, Chuks Okpehoro, 23, also an indigene of Ohunmere and a school dropout, said Emmanuel invited him to be part of the operation which according to him they carried out along Sunny Ojougboh area. He confessed that he has been into crime, but he will turn a new leaf if he is freed.

Meanwhile, the Chairman of Agbor Gha Ihun, Comrade Fidelis Omoile called on youths resident in Ika South to stay away from crime and violence. See another photo of them below..

The suspects
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We Will Join Others On Nationwide Strike - Electricity Workers

National Union of Electricity Employees, NUEE, make a serious threats to join others for the impending nationwide strike.

Electricity workers

The Nigeria Union of Petroleum and Natural Gas Workers, NUPENG, yesterday said loading of products, including aviation fuel, would stop from today as affiliates of United Labour Congress of Nigeria, ULC, begin an indefinite strike.

According to Financial Watch, the industrial action is fresh move by the United Labor Congress, ULC, a union that seeks to act as umbrella for both NLC and TUC. However, leaders of the National Union of Banks, Insurance and Financial Employees, NUBIFIE, said members may not effectively join the strike today because the union just concluded its delegates conference weekend, warning, however, that members would fully join should the strike persist.

But the NLC and TUC have insisted that ULC was fake, since it was not recognized by government, and urged Nigerians to ignore the group.

Similarly, the Federal Ministry of Labour also held on to its earlier position that the ULC was not recognized by the Federal Government.

The Presidency, through the Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, said last night that the Presidency stands by the Labour Minister’s position that the ULC is not recognized by the Federal Government.
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I Started With Just N15,000 – Tara Fela-Durotoye Speaks On How She Started Makeup Business

Today we take a look at Tara Fela-Durotoye of House of Tara, and how she was able to navigate the uncharted waters of starting a new course of business in a country as Nigeria.

Tara Fela-Durotoye

Introduction
Tara Fela-Durotoye is a Nigerian-born lawyer turned Africa's leading beauty and makeup entrepreneur. She started House of Tara at the age of 20, from her living room, whilst an undergraduate at the Lagos State University back in 1998. She's since gone on to launch Nigeria's first ever bridal directory in 1999, and in 2004 she opened the country's leading beauty academy. Today, Tara has over 3,000 reps spread across Nigeria and 14 stores to her name and she is steadfastly dedicated to realising her vision of building a globally respected beauty company of African origin. Tara remains an inspirational role-model and mentor to make-up artists and aspiring beauty business owners across Africa. Tara made the Forbes’ list of 20 Young Power Women in Africa, 2013 and was also nominated as a Young Global Leader by the World Economic Forum.

Finding Passion
While she acknowledged that "creating a business that impacts and generates income, developing micro entrepreneurs who will grow their businesses and employ more people so as to make the Nigerian economy better is what's most important" and fuels her passion, it was not all that easy for the young entrepreneur. The society was such that had no place for entrepreneurship, and need not talk of a young lady at that. With her education, she was expected to earn her living being a lawyer, but the young Tara had to follow her dream.
“I was in secondary school many years ago and a man came to speak to us. He came to speak to us as an entrepreneur, that is, as a business man. He was in advertising and because he was creative, I found him interesting. He made me interested in business.... I eventually went to the university and I studied law. As an undergraduate, while I was still in school I started a business. I started with just N15,000 (fifteen thousand naira)."
She later trained as a makeup artist of Charles Fox. According to Tara, her mother was her major source of inspiration while growing up: “ She was a fantastic woman, very fashionable, so when you looked at her dressing table she had make-up products, she would paint her face in the morning, she never missed her hairdressing appointment, her nail polish was always perfect. I grew up seeing her adorn herself and I liked looking at her through all that process. I didn't know that a seed was being sown in my heart.”

Challenges
Every startup entrepreneur has his own share of challenges and House of Tara was not any different. While some challenges may fade away as your outfit moves up on the growth chart, others just stay put or dissolve into another according to the peculiarities of the outfit. According to Tara: “At start up, we faced challenges with raising funds. In Nigeria, you need to be able to get financing and raising funds was a big problem. Also, our industry is an informal one and as pioneers, we could not find standards to copy. It’s easier when you see something you can copy but when you have to think it through and make it up as they come along, it’s not easy. Now, we are dealing with challenges of attracting talent and retaining them; keeping the voice of the vision across multiple branches and across a number of people. We also face the challenge of people asking us to sell shares in the company and people consistently looking for ways to be part of the business that will boom.”

Dare To Be Different
One major challenge for startups is carving a niche for themselves out of an over saturated market or industry. Even established organisations pay a huge sum to just keep rebranding an over flogged idea or concept. The motivation is to always remain original with your concept, otherwise you'll get drowned in the crowd of opinions or competitions
For Tara, she believes you should “Stay true to yourself, stay true to what you are trying to achieve, otherwise you get distracted. Side comments, how people think you should do things, and I think that everyone wants to hear their own voice so you need to stay true to yourself. Before you come out of your house you have to decide, yes this is what I want to do. You still need counsel but you should be able to apply counsel to your own decision to be able to take insightful steps.”

Conclusively, the impact her startup organisation has had on the lives of people cannot be waved off. According to Harvey S. Firestone: "The growth and development of people is the highest calling of leadership". Speaking about the impact her entrepreneurial journey has had in the country, Tara says: “For us it’is the impact we are making that is most rewarding. The jobs… there are many people who are looking for jobs today and the beauty industry has given an opportunity for young people who are very excited about beauty, and you know Nigerians are very fashionable and love beauty. We have given many people the opportunity to start up something as a business, to be business owners, to start up their own businesses and to make money from it but also to be financially independent and many them have had to employ one or two people as well and I think that gives greater joy, for us.”
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Sars Arrested Man While Attepting To Sell Stolen Benz G-Wagon Worth N37m

Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS), Lagos Police Command, have arrested a man, Andrew Agofure, suspected to have burgled a house at Lekki-Ajah area of the metropolis and stole a Mercedes Benz G-Wagon valued at N37 million.

The Suspect

According to report,  Agofure has denied the allegation. 

According to the investigators, all efforts made to find the vehicle within Lagos were futile. Police said they were also looking for another suspect, identified simply as Patrick. The police believe that the fleeing Patrick masterminded the robbery.

A source said: “We didn’t, however, give up. We kept digging and finally tracked the car to Nasarawa State. We were shocked that the jeep had been moved from Lagos to Nasarawa State. When we discovered that it had been placed online for sale, we swung into action. Although it was moved to Nasarawa State, it was displayed at a car mart in Abuja.” 

The team of detectives that cracked the case was led by Deputy Superintendent Police Akinola Aduroja. The suspect, Agofure, was arrested on August 30.

The police alleged that Patrick drove the vehicle from Lekki-Ajah in Lagos State to Nasarawa State but placed at a car mart in Abuja for sale. The police disclosed that the jeep, which was N37 million, was placed on the online mart for N15 million.

DSP Aduroja said: “We posed as buyers that wanted to buy the jeep for N15 million online. We arrested the suspect when he came to sell the jeep to us. The jeep, whose location was Abuja, was recovered in a forest in Nasarawa State around midnight.”

He said that on August 22, about 7.30p.m., Muiz Adebayo Ajayi, of No. 10A, Lucky Garden, Road 17, County Homes, Lekki-Ajah, Lagos reported a conspiracy, burglary and stealing to the Lagos State Commissioner of Police, Mr Imohimi Edgal, through a petition. The petitioner alleged that he travelled to Kenya and upon his return on August 20; he discovered that the main gate to the compound had been broken by unknown persons.

Ajayi added that one jeep, with registration number BGD 2 EV and some electronics valued at N1.2 million were stolen from the house of his elder brother, Adekunle Odunlami, who was in Malaysia. In a bid to track down those that burgled the Lekki-Ajah home of the complainant, Aduroja and his men posed as buyers.

On September 6, Agofure appeared to pick the cheque for the car and was grabbed. Since Agofure’s arrest, police have been looking for Patrick. But Agofure said he did not know anything about the robbery. However, he said a man, Tony, who he met at a cybercafé and became friends with, taught him how to hack into different sites.
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Manchester United's Overall Performance Win Over Everton "Wasn't Good"- Gary Neville Claims

Gary Neville admitted Manchester United's overall performance in the 4-0 win over Everton "wasn't good", but insists there is a successful pattern building with their play.

Manchester United

United hit three late goals at Old Trafford, as they have done on numerous occasions this season, though the scoreline arguably flattered the hosts.
Neville added that Jose Mourinho's patience has been a success so far this season, and says United's side have the maturity to deal with this approach.
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VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS: Real Madrid Vs Real Sociedad 3-1 LA Liga 2017

Real Madrid Vs Real Sociedad 3-1 LA Liga 2017

Real Madrid thrashed Real Sociedad with 3 goals to 1 on Sunday LA Liga match played between the two team.
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VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS: Chelsea vs Arsenal 0-0 EPL 2017

Chelsea vs Arsenal 0-0 EPL 2017

Chelsea fc and arsenal fc draw the match between the both team on Sunday premier league, following 0-0 result
RELATED: VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS: Real Madrid Vs Real Sociedad 3-1 LA Liga 2017
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Da L.E.S Releases Full Tracklist For His Upcoming Album 'High Level'

Da L.e.s - High Level

Da L.e.s is set to drop another dope Album which will be titled 'High Level'. The album will be his second album in months, and situated at 12 tracks.
See the full Tracklist below..
(1). Da L.E.S – Option
(2). Popular Demand
(3). Exotic
(4). Low
(5). Something Else (feat. Maggz & Gemini Major)
(6). Stay (feat. Tay Grin)
(7). Taking No More (feat. Khuli Chana & Tshego)
(8). Out of the Blue
(9). Train Rides
(10). Slow
(11). Tunnel Vision
(12). Water Whipping (feat. Baby Da Silva)
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VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS: Manchester United vs Everton 4-0 EPL 2017

Manchester United vs Everton 4-0 EPL 2017

Manchester United thrashed Everton with 4 Goals to nil on sunday Premier League match played between both teams.

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FAST DOWNLOAD: Sauti Sol Ft. Chidinma – Gyration (Mp3 Music)

Sauti Sol and Chidinma coke studio Africa - Gyration

Sauti Sol join forces with Miss kedike 'Chidinma' on this fresh episode of coke studio Africa to present this dope jam titled 'Gyration'.
Download, Listen, Enjoy and share your thoughts below..
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Photo: Mayweather Buy A $26 Million Mansion At Beverly Hills

Floyd Mayweather Jr which recently win against Mc Gregor has acquires a mansion whooping of $26,000,000.

Floyd Mayweather Jr

Mr money of The Money Team, Floyd Mayweather Jr, has splashed a whooping of $26 million cash to buy himself a luxurious six-bedroom mansion, located in Beverly Hills, Los Angeles.
This is coming after he splashed humps of money on his fans, crew and strippers of course, for his high payout victory against Conor McGregor.
The newly-acquired mansion boasts of a private 20-person cinema, separate guest house that has it’s own gym, and a cocktail bar.
According to reports, the Legend boxer spent a whooping £370,000 additional to furnish the home.
Other features of the two-storey property include a row of ten French doors that open from the living room to the grounds, landscaped gardens with black-and-white marble surrounds, with luxury sofas and an open burner to keep guests warm outside in the evenings.
Mayweather’s master bedroom boasts dual bathrooms and a private terrace looking down onto the pool area. There’s a Miele-equipped concession bar and plenty of room to park his fleet of luxury cars.
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VIDEO: Tinny Mafia Ft. Ycee – Komije

Tinny Mafia Ft. Ycee – Komije (Mp4 Video)

Tinny Mafia drops the visuals to the recently released instant banger, ‘Komije’ featuring lead act, YCEE. The video was shot in Maryland, USA by SM Productions.
Tinny Mafia is a coalition of Tinny Entertainment artistes; Ycee, Dapo Tuburna, Bella and affiliates. ‘Komije’ serves as the first single from the coalition of young and talented artistes. The track is produced by Adey. Enjoy below..
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